I don't speak SJW psychobabble. Here's the definition most sane humans work by:
gender/ˈdʒɛndə/
noun
1.the state of being male or female (typically used with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones).
My psych textbook says psychosocial. But how we choose to define gender does absolutely nothing to change reality.
Therefore your problem with gender can be fixed by wearing a whorish skirt and some garishly applied lip stick. Which is the warped concept of feminimity many trannies appear to have. The only surgery I would consider approving spending public money on would be castration, preferably before you've had the chance to breed.
You get caught up in the definitions of words a lot, I've noticed. Even after I explain I was writing with a different definition in mind you're stuck on it. Just pretend I had written gender identity as opposed to gender, okay?
Are you talking about me, specifically? Transgender is one of those umbrella terms. What I experience is called transsexualism, a category under the transgender umbrella. It's not my favorite word, transsexualism. Lots of negative connotations. For you though, it's the right word to keep in mind.