Hello Arnox. I'm not one to usually give unsollicited advice, but I've been on Totse/Zoklet since 2005, too, and this... thing that was once Totse, while now only a shrivelled shell, still has some sentimental value to me. I'd hate to see this site go down the shitter, too.
My advice? Just mod someone who was not a contested figure on either Totse or Zoklet. Demod Zek, but do not install a mod from the SpecGuru camp to replace her. It's not even a question of whether these people (from both camps) have the right qualities to mod. Moderating a small to medium-sized forum like Sanctuary doesn't exactly require a PhD: I'm sure you can find other suitable candidates. The problem with all these posters I just mentioned is that they are just too divisive; they will split the forum into two camps that are capable of nothing more than slinging shit at each other. Surely everyone agrees that nobody wants that.
Also I would like to add that DaGuru does raise a fair point: you should grow some fucking balls. Maybe you're an insecure virgin in real life, the type that looks rather awkardly at his own feet when someone is bossing him around. But this is the internet. This is your fucking forum. You're supposed to define what this site is about. Mods are just your enforcers.
Given this, I would urge you to install the most bland, friendless, autistic bureaucrat you can find as a mod, someone who is neither liked nor disliked by anyone, someone without an agenda of his own, and who is loyal only to you and this site's rules. Either that, or start banning people. I would prefer option one, since this forum is already hanging by a thread, but the point I'm trying to make is that you have to do something to install a semblance of order and a consensus about staff policy, so you can at least try to build an active community.