how to deal with being alone?

[joe camel]

So lately i just been down. Shit is hard. Im just at a low point in my life. But the main thing that gets me down is i dont have anybody to talk to when im down, nobody who really understand what i go through on a daily basis. I know i shouldn't go out and seek such a person, because when i meet the one who will listen and does understand and actually cares about me i will know it. So how do i get by in the meantime? I have actually been thinking of getting put back on antidepressants because i struggle to get out of bed in the morning and even small simple tasks are just so hard to do when your so down. People have noticed a change in me. My job is in jeopardy because of this and if i lose this job its over for me. So i ask you, how do i move past this? How can i just be okay being alone?

[equanimity]

Make friends with your loneliness.

[joe camel]

Make friends with your loneliness.

And how do i do that?

[equanimity]

Make friends with your loneliness.

And how do i do that?

Don't fight it so much.  Accept it gently for what it is.  Everyone has to be alone from time to time.  It's kind of silly to react so strongly against something inevitable.

[joe camel]

I'm just tired of constantly being down and alone. I feel like whats the point in anything if you dont have someone to share it with? Why go to work? I can only spend that money on myself. Why dress nice? Nobody will see me anyway, etc.

[starvingniglet]

I'm just tired of constantly being down and alone. I feel like whats the point in anything if you dont have someone to share it with? Why go to work? I can only spend that money on myself. Why dress nice? Nobody will see me anyway, etc.

A man that is comfortable with himself is much more attractive to women.  Just hang in there and focus on getting done what you gotta do, and things will fall into place.  There will be setbacks or bad days, but that is just part of life.  It is easier said than done, but you can do it.  There is no reason you can't.

[Prometheus]

As someone who is frequently medicated himself, if you think antidepressants will help, go for it. Depression contributes to isolation, and isolation is bad for depression. Sometimes you only need to be on something temporarily in order to break the cycle.

[kroz]

stephen king - “Alone. Yes, that's the key word, the most awful word in the English tongue. Murder doesn't hold a candle to it and hell is only a poor synonym.”

you deal with it by doing your own thing, I'm still trying to figure that out for myself, I'm sitting here with my "gf" right now and I've never felt more alone.

I know it sounds trite, but you will never be alone if you're with god.

[joe camel]

Man you guys always make me feel better, even if it is only a little bit. You guys give me hope, makr me feel like everything will be okay, its just a pothole in the road of life.

I give it a week, if by then i still feel like shit maybe its time to go to a doctor.

[Nigger Nostrils]

Antidepressants will just make you feel tired and empty. What you need is beer and uplifting music.

[Prometheus]

Because nothing treats depression like a depressant!

Not that I haven't been known to self-medicate with alcohol. Just 8 or 10 drinks to make me stupid enough to get along with the normals. Any more than that, and I start to get drunk.

[Ninja]

I love being alone, because most people geek me the fuck out!  I got shit to do!  Focus all your free time on improving yourself, set goals, and push towards doing things that make you happy.  When you are alone you don't have another person trying to use up all your time and you can be extremely productive.  Go hire a hooker and have her hold you while you cry.

[starvingniglet]

Man you guys always make me feel better, even if it is only a little bit. You guys give me hope, makr me feel like everything will be okay, its just a pothole in the road of life.

I give it a week, if by then i still feel like shit maybe its time to go to a doctor.

 

[Rocklin]

Being alone is great!,   all the money you make is "Yours" and you buy whatever or do whatever you want.   being alone also helps you get rich!




It also might make you into a psychopath though.

[Suicidal Fish]

Like Rocklin says the postive is your money is yours

The negative is the voices in your head may start talking to you.

OP - I had an experience once when I moved away for work and I was living in a shared house with nobody as the owner was trying to sell. It was winter and freezing and I kept myself sane by going online and talkin in chat rooms etc, I also had a couple of mates to chat online with.

I also played a video game called Football (Soccer) Manager that made the time fly, but at the end of it I knew I was going home so you maybe need an end target