Before I met my fiance of four years, I went through a couple drawn out periods of loneliness.. Somewhat by choice, somewhat by necessity. The thing about being alone you first have to realize, is that essentially, the word in itself has a bad rep. People have bitched about being alone for so long, we've just become accustomed to quickly assuming it's status as a bad thing. The truth of the situation however, is that the majority of people.. suck. Maybe not in general, but from an individual standpoint and perspective, the average person is going to have a niche of people in which they can get along with, and will view the bulk as annoying, ignorant, or otherwise uninteresting. It's finding those niche people that takes a little time or work.
Their are positive aspects to being alone. You have so much more focus on yourself and what you want. (short of you not wanting to be alone, which is counter-productive).. You have more free reign over your life, your direction, your schedule, when you want to take time off, less stress about completing tasks, freedom to pursue your craziest dreams without fear of judgement.. etc.. I suppose the overall goal of the lonely, is to find someone to share your life with, that still adheres to those same fundamentals. But, with relationships come compromise.. priorities.. timelines.. responsibilities.. and expectations. Which are not inherently bad within themselves, but in the wrong relationship, can be toxic, depressing, and the undoing the the relationship in general, resulting in.. well.. wasted time.
Funny.. As I stated, I went through "true" periods of alone time before my fiance. When we first got together, and at varying times of our relationship, we've partied a bit, hung out with friends, tried to keep up with a social scene or two... But, every so often.. We'll take time off from people for months at a time, just only we're together in doing so. So we still more/less have periods of being alone, except we're together.. And honestly, I wouldn't have it any other way.. for now. Most people just arent worth the time. Invest in yourself, work on making yourself better.. or jsut do whatever you want.. be lazy, play games, join a workshop, start writing, being bodybuilding, start tinkiering with old electronics, do diy projects, learn to cook, learn another language, start a webpage, start a business, so much potential.. just do something, instead of nothing.. alone or not.
