Fingers Crossed for Social Life

[Soso0]

So some more good news. At my new job there's a manager that every one hates. She can be a bitch to people sometimes but I find her attitude interesting in a way. Turns out she lives near me and has offered to give me rides home when we work together. I've noticed during work that she tends to joke around quiet a bit with me and is also less strict with me. As much as I should hope for a good lay, I wouldn't be bummed out just being friends. I'd be okay with it cause it's just an opportunity to meet even more people and have connections. It's nice being alone but everything has a limit. I could use some friends to chill and have a few drinks with.

[Idiosyncrasy]

Is she your manager, or just a manager? A lot of companies have policies against hooking up with people within so many layers of their span of control. It'd suck to get fired over someone who everyone else hates.

[Soso0]

Is she your manager, or just a manager? A lot of companies have policies against hooking up with people within so many layers of their span of control. It'd suck to get fired over someone who everyone else hates.

Well it's a small store and she's one of my two managers. During training I remember the handbook just stating that asking another worker out on a date was fined, I'm assuming that includes managers but I'm not 100% sure. I have no intention of asking anyone on a date. It's funny how the store just opened and people are trying to get her moved to another store lol

[Rook]

 I wouldn't assume that you need to worry about the technicalities of store policy over befriending a co-worker. Glad to hear that more things are looking up for you man. This is a great opportunity in many ways.. Its going to be helping you out with a ride from work, your probably gaining a slight edge over your other co-workers in terms of needing days off or reconciling any future accidental slip ups.. I would say above all else, especially considering your wanting of a social life at this time.. even with those possible perks, don't let it become a mental thing of "what can this person do for me".. that is if your seeking some serious friendship. It's never a bad thing to keep in mind the perks of your acquaintances, but if that's all they ever are to you.. then they'll tend not to stay in your life for very long.. And I say that from my personal experience.. I'm just as at fault for sometimes measuring a persons worth on what they can do for me. The fault with this is, you never really make those real friendship connection, and thus you don't try as hard to fulfill the responsibilities of a "friend".. And depending the person, being a friend can be easy.. or it can be very hard.

 Shit, I'm sorry man.. I didnt mean to take a negative turn with that. Just my over-analytical mindset.. haha. I'm sure it'll be fine though. Having someone to go out with for drinks.. introduce you to new and interesting people.. maybe make some connections with people of a similar mindset.. The best of things are typically accomplished when you've surrounded yourself with intelligent, similar minded people who are oriented towards similar goals. If I can say one last thing about friendship, and possibly the most important thing.. people arent friends unless you are loyal to them. Loyalty is everything.

[Soso0]

I wouldn't assume that you need to worry about the technicalities of store policy over befriending a co-worker. Glad to hear that more things are looking up for you man. This is a great opportunity in many ways.. Its going to be helping you out with a ride from work, your probably gaining a slight edge over your other co-workers in terms of needing days off or reconciling any future accidental slip ups.. I would say above all else, especially considering your wanting of a social life at this time.. even with those possible perks, don't let it become a mental thing of "what can this person do for me".. that is if your seeking some serious friendship. It's never a bad thing to keep in mind the perks of your acquaintances, but if that's all they ever are to you.. then they'll tend not to stay in your life for very long.. And I say that from my personal experience.. I'm just as at fault for sometimes measuring a persons worth on what they can do for me. The fault with this is, you never really make those real friendship connection, and thus you don't try as hard to fulfill the responsibilities of a "friend".. And depending the person, being a friend can be easy.. or it can be very hard.

 Shit, I'm sorry man.. I didnt mean to take a negative turn with that. Just my over-analytical mindset.. haha. I'm sure it'll be fine though. Having someone to go out with for drinks.. introduce you to new and interesting people.. maybe make some connections with people of a similar mindset.. The best of things are typically accomplished when you've surrounded yourself with intelligent, similar minded people who are oriented towards similar goals. If I can say one last thing about friendship, and possibly the most important thing.. people arent friends unless you are loyal to them. Loyalty is everything.

I feel you man, I'm not the type to go around using people. I'll be a good friend in return for good friendship or loyalty like you said. The perks are just a plus. Making friends has always been difficult for me. It's not that I am anti social but as a kid I was overprotected and made it difficult to hang out with friends. I found video games as my outlet and it continued into my teen years up until college. Now that I am an adult I don't resent my mother for overprotecting me. The area I grew up in was rough so it's understandable that she wanted to keep me away from drugs and crime at an early age. But there is nothing holding me back right now from creating new friendships. I am thinking of this as a fresh start. It's too bad my friends from college still view me as an alcoholic with no future but whatever, I'll make this fresh start count.

[starvingniglet]

Making friends has always been difficult for me. It's not that I am anti social but as a kid I was overprotected and made it difficult to hang out with friends. I found video games as my outlet and it continued into my teen years up until college. Now that I am an adult I don't resent my mother for overprotecting me. The area I grew up in was rough so it's understandable that she wanted to keep me away from drugs and crime at an early age. But there is nothing holding me back right now from creating new friendships. I am thinking of this as a fresh start. It's too bad my friends from college still view me as an alcoholic with no future but whatever, I'll make this fresh start count.

The less people you trust, the better....but everyone has to trust someone, don't they?

[Tokolosh]

She can be a bitch to people

I find her attitude interesting in a way

Interesting? Or intriguing? Maybe you're developing into a sub. Does the idea of her bending you over and slapping your ass arousing? Do you like it when she bosses you around?

From what I'm reading she's picking up on your low-life tendencies and you're subconciously looking to become her little bitch to compensate an easy work-life.

[Soso0]

She can be a bitch to people

I find her attitude interesting in a way

Interesting? Or intriguing? Maybe you're developing into a sub. Does the idea of her bending you over and slapping your ass arousing? Do you like it when she bosses you around?

From what I'm reading she's picking up on your low-life tendencies and you're subconciously looking to become her little bitch to compensate an easy work-life.

Might be cause I think she's cute. That's the only reason I could think of. No and no, I don't let her give me any attitude or let her treat me like some slave.

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