How to live with a drug addict?

[MoaningLisa]

I would say the best solution would be to get rid of your brother.

is he on parole/probation because of the DUI? the counselor, if they are doing their job, should probably not sign the paperwork appointed by the judge. its clearly not working.

what kind of job does he work?

[equanimity]

He's a cook at a Chinese restaurant.  Yes, he's on probation, but it's nothing serious.  In my state DUIs generally aren't taken too seriously heh.

I know it isn't working, and I should probably remove myself from the situation, but he's my brother and I care about him :/

Somehow I'd like to help him, but when I try even just talking to him about it he responds with anger and violence.

[MoaningLisa]

how has his employer not noticed??

and if he's that far gone, rehab is probably the best bet. if he doesn't know or can't admit he has a problem, there really isn't much you can do

[equanimity]

His employer has noticed, and it's been an issue for a while.  He seems to handle work than he handles home, but he's been in some trouble there.  It just seems like he's so close.  He sees the counselor sometimes, and there's a push toward detox there.  He just never makes that jump.  When he's sober he's a very kind soul.

[MoaningLisa]

if you are driving him around, can't you control his supply of coke/vodka?

[equanimity]

if you are driving him around, can't you control his supply of coke/vodka?

I'm not sure where the coke it coming from, and where I live there are churches and liquor stores every few feet so he just walks.  Sometimes I'll pour his vodka out but then I really do think he'll start beating me heh :/

It's just a shit situation.

[MoaningLisa]

have you tried talking to him when he's sober? and explained how destructive he is being?

honestly though, rehab exists for exactly this reason...

[equanimity]

have you tried talking to him when he's sober? and explained how destructive he is being?

honestly though, rehab exists for exactly this reason...

When he's sober, he refuses to talk about any of this stuff.  Even gets angry if I bring it up.  Sometimes when he's the right kind of drunk he gets emotional and spills his guts and I feel we had a productive talk, but then nothing changes.

It would be amazing if he went to rehab, and I feel like he's so close.  But ultimately it's his decision.  I can't force him to go.

[Proots]

You're living with someone, practically rent free like a disgusting parasite and you have the gall to whine about how they spend their time? Move out. Nothing you say or do is going to change him. He has to make that decision himself. Either get used to it and relish his generosity for supporting his fucked up gender bending sibling, or move out. It's really that simple.

[Umbrella Corp]

OP maybe you wouldn't get made fun of so much if you stopped divulging embarrassing PI.

Being a tranny, abandoning children, etc. there is already a bad narrative running about you because you can't figure out your problems on your own and gotta ask a bunch of random internet assholes.

On topic, your brother is an adult, he chooses how to live and nobody can change that.  If you don't like it you must change something about yourself, IE move out.

[hfcs]

Do you get wet when he gets violent?

[komokazi]

Get another job, faggot. One part-time job... this is not an after school special. Quit being a lazy nigger. Build a skill set aside from S'n the D.

[UserToast]

Definitely just give him distance. He wants to be Jeff Hunter go ahead and let him bc getting inbetween your bro and the great white dope might get you hit. Call the cops or get him evicted if you're concern for his safety and yours is not a priority of your parents. I'd also recommend seeking out rehabilitation programs for him if your parents do give a fuck. You could even join a group therapy for him if he won't go stranger things have happened than family memebers being affected by a person's drug use. Best thing is to let him have his fun but if he's in a bad way protecting his life may be something he'll thank you for in the long term.

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[X0MB13]

I'm worried about my brother.

Some of us addicts don't give a shit even about ourselves because we are in a self-destruct mode. I'm a shitty substance abuse counselor but if your brother is no threat to you and you aren't stealing his drugs you will be fine with it. You don't need our help since all is well and paid. Rational emotive Behavioral therapy is my advice but that is only if he wants help or you learn to live with it