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Offline equanimity

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How to live with a drug addict?
« on: October 05, 2014, 09:36:19 pm »
I live with my brother.  Financially it's an awesome situation, as I don't pay anything to stay here.  Any money I make goes to quality food, medical stuff, and salon appointments.  If I left it would be more difficult getting through school, and I'd likely need to take a few semesters off throughout to work full time and accumulate money.

But he's getting pretty bad.  Goes through ~4 fifths of vodka each week, and is fucked up on coke on a daily basis.  It really doesn't help that he's working crazy long hours, like sometimes 15 hour shifts.  He's angry always.  Punches holes in the walls, breaks shit and threatens me with violence.  He hasn't hit me or anything in a long time, but sometimes I'm scared he might.  It's frightening watching him act so destructively, toward himself and everything around him.  I'm really tired of picking up broken glass.  He looks awful.  Lips so chapped they look white, bags under his eyes... just so unhealthy.

And it's affecting me.  Quite a bit.

He's seeing a counselor since the courts made him after his second DUI, and he says he's going to detox soon.  But he's been saying that for over a month now.  Nothing is getting done.  He misses his counseling more often than makes it, and when the counselor pressures him to start detox he makes up some lame excuse.

I'm not sure what to do.


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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #1 on: October 05, 2014, 09:39:27 pm »
Well, first things first, you should start doing cocaine with him.

BECAUSE if you're doing his coke he won't have as much to do, therefore less of a drug addict.


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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #2 on: October 05, 2014, 09:42:41 pm »
Why is he so angry?   Is it because you don't pay any rent?

Maybe if you paid rent, he wouldn't be so angry.
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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #3 on: October 05, 2014, 09:43:41 pm »
Why is he so angry?   Is it because you don't pay any rent?

Maybe if you paid rent, he wouldn't be so angry.

lol.

Damn this place needs thanks so badly...


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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #4 on: October 05, 2014, 09:45:45 pm »
Why is he so angry?   Is it because you don't pay any rent?

Maybe if you paid rent, he wouldn't be so angry.

lol.

Damn this place needs thanks so badly...

I'm not joking.  Why don't you pay rent?
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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #5 on: October 05, 2014, 09:48:46 pm »
Why is he so angry?   Is it because you don't pay any rent?

Maybe if you paid rent, he wouldn't be so angry.

lol.

Damn this place needs thanks so badly...

I'm not joking.  Why don't you pay rent?

He doesn't, either.  It's a property my dad owns, and he lives with stepmom.  Spoiled rich white kid.  Is that okay? :P


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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #6 on: October 05, 2014, 09:53:09 pm »
you're like fucking 30.

I'm legally obligated to live with my mom until I get legal approval to move, have no discernible taxable income and I still pay rent but then again I don't undergo hormone treatment to try to reverse biology

Do you even child support?

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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #7 on: October 05, 2014, 09:53:22 pm »
What do your parents say about the situation?
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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #8 on: October 05, 2014, 09:59:49 pm »
you're like fucking 30.

I'm legally obligated to live with my mom until I get legal approval to move, have no discernible taxable income and I still pay rent but then again I don't undergo hormone treatment to try to reverse biology

Do you even child support?

:rolleyes:

This is economical.  Plus we have raspberry bushes here and I can do my gardening stuff.  Why would I pay $700+ in rent/utilities each month when I have this as an option?  I guess because of all this drama... *sigh*

What do your parents say about the situation?

They're removed from the situation, but they both agree that he should get into rehab.  It's mostly my problem I guess.  I'm tasked with driving him around too, as he's not supposed to.


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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #9 on: October 05, 2014, 10:07:18 pm »
You're living off of them, they are not removed from the situation.   I suggest you remove yourself from the situation and learn some independence.  If you can't do that, I guess you have to deal with it.
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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #10 on: October 05, 2014, 10:30:03 pm »
You're living off of them, they are not removed from the situation.   I suggest you remove yourself from the situation and learn some independence.  If you can't do that, I guess you have to deal with it.

I could, but as I said before it would interrupt my schooling and likely set me back x many years.  Guess that's the choice I'm faced with, though.

It's interesting to me that you're one of the people making a big out of financial independence, Obbe.  For the record I first moved out at 17, and lived in many different places with a lot of different people.


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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #11 on: October 05, 2014, 10:34:32 pm »
You're living off of them, they are not removed from the situation.   I suggest you remove yourself from the situation and learn some independence.  If you can't do that, I guess you have to deal with it.

I could, but as I said before it would interrupt my schooling and likely set me back x many years.  Guess that's the choice I'm faced with, though.

It's interesting to me that you're one of the people making a big out of financial independence, Obbe.  For the record I first moved out at 17, and lived in many different places with a lot of different people.

And now you're living with a drug addict in a place paid for by your parents.  What's your point?

Why would it set you back years?  Why can't you work while you go to school?  Why can't you get government assistance?   Or, considering you already live off your parents,  why don't they pay for your own house?
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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #12 on: October 05, 2014, 10:41:07 pm »
You're living off of them, they are not removed from the situation.   I suggest you remove yourself from the situation and learn some independence.  If you can't do that, I guess you have to deal with it.

I could, but as I said before it would interrupt my schooling and likely set me back x many years.  Guess that's the choice I'm faced with, though.

It's interesting to me that you're one of the people making a big out of financial independence, Obbe.  For the record I first moved out at 17, and lived in many different places with a lot of different people.

And now you're living with a drug addict in a place paid for by your parents.  What's your point?

Why would it set you back years?  Why can't you work while you go to school?  Why can't you get government assistance?   Or, considering you already live off your parents,  why don't they pay for your own house?

The house is paid off, and we're living here while he has work done on it to resell it later.  It's not like he'd pay for me where ever I decided to live, this was just a good opportunity.  I have been working while going to school, but making ~$12 an hour doing part time CNA work doesn't exactly pay the bills.  And I have other expenses that are important to me (medical stuff).  Plus I'm paying off prior medical debt.  Suppose I could try for medical assistance, but isn't that sort of thing usually only given to people with kids?


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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #13 on: October 05, 2014, 10:49:21 pm »
I have no idea,  why don't you find out?

If this is such a good opportunity why are you even complaining?
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Re: How to live with a drug addict?
« Reply #14 on: October 05, 2014, 10:50:23 pm »
I'm worried about my brother.


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