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You've really got to work on that. At the moment you're living your life for others, worrying how your actions look to others and worrying that you're not doing good enough for them. One of the sayings that really struck with me was, "don't be concerned about being in people's way or are disturbing them, take up as much space as you want and let them tell you if they have a problem with it." Live your life for yourself, be selfish until given a reason not to be.... don't intentionally bring people down, but NEVER intentionally bring yourself down FOR other people. It's a whole mindset that you need to fix, and it's very, very possible. Most people who seem to have "have it all together" aren't naturally like that, they were right where you are now and have climbed out of it by learning to respect, appreciate and love themselves. If you don't live your life with the directive to make it as happy, enjoyable, pleasureable, and meaningful as it can be - no one else will. Everyone is playing their own game, and you're playing into their hand for absolutely no reason.The moment you begin to be happy in your own skin is like a breathless air just washes over you and everything just becomes easier. Social interactions become a breeze when people have to prove themselves to you rather than you proving yourself to them. I know anxiety is not something you can magically cure, but at least know where you're trying to go so you can get there easier. Hopefully we can help. Tinder is a good superficial start, knowing that these girls - based only on looks - liked you... you should feel in complete control of the relationship now that they've given up their ONLY power of you as a female.Anyone who fears that other people might see them on tinder or see that they use it should heed this advice.
yeah man, take every shot you can and never say no.... do chit just for the story, live safe but adventurously. These stories will keep that little fire burning inside of you to improve and progress at everything else. You shouldn't live to have a good paying job, a secure financial life and retire comfortably.... you should work hard to be able to have fun, enjoy your time when your young, and experience the world. It's a balancing act, but many people waste their time and realize it when it's too late.
strong this..i just realized that im putting way too much work into my job and getting little out of it.. working 60+ hours a week with no life.. wake up, work, get home, possibly lift if i have energy, then sleep and do it over again.. srsly gone ALL fuarking day. i been putting together my resume today and blasting it out.. must balance life/work or you gon die
Don't bother, instead take the time to truly look at what you can do every day you wake up and realize that the only thing stopping you is yourself. There are people who can't lift, you can. There are people who don't have the mental stability to do whatever they want, you can. There are people who were born with deformities that you do not have to live with. There are people who were injured in combat so you don't have to (no argument for whether the war is good or not, if no one volunteered you would be drafted). There are people who despite their hard work and determination were born into the wrong country and do not have a shred of the possibilities you have each and every morning.Think about that and tell me again that you truly appreciate what you've been given. When you realize you don't, and for some asinine reason (it's ok, everyone does it... just do it less) you focus on the negatives instead of the opportunities, you might be able to get upon a new mindset where your passion is geared towards the right goals, and nothing can stop you from taking full advantage of it all.GL brah.
In response to this and other similar comments I'd like to write you an essay. Yes it will be TL;DR but if you are interested in quote unquote game or just learning how to talk to wimmen, take a few minutes and read it.Let's begin by making the point that the "lines" here, the pictures posted, and the advice given in relation to direct "things to say" are ONLY a crutch for you to fake your way until you learn how to talk to women properly. Now, when I say talk to women properly I don't mean what you say - It's 100% about HOW you say it. You can say ANYTHING to a girl as long as you say it right, and you will have positive results. This is all gained through experience, nothing I or anyone else shows you or teaches you will help you develop the persona/skill to do this, its just experience. This is obviously more elaborately done in real life, but we can also display this in text. The most important aspect here the one mentioned in this article http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lif...r-reality.html"Your Perception IS Your Reality"- Between two people, each has a perception of events - and thats what events are, just the result of our perceptions of them - and either you can agree or disagree on them. IF you disagree, which one will be accepted as correct? Whoever has the strongest and most confident portrayal of their perception. When you have arguments - you don't win by using logic, you win by making the other person believe in what you are saying. Flirting, game, whatever, is very much the same way. You enter the situation at a complete disadvantage - she has the choice of any guy on this app, and you just got a chance to talk to her, she knows it and you know it. The only way to have success is to completely flip the switch and gain the power yourself. You need to sell your perception that she got lucky, it wasn't you that lucked out getting a chance to talk to her.Now in texting, perception is harder to create than in real life, but is very possible and is the only way to run a conversation. It is how you 'get' girls to fall for you, you must alter the conversation so that the reality that is being portrayed is YOURS and not hers. The way you run the conversation - how you talk about yourself, about her, about the things - is how she will remember you and judge you. Women respond more than us on emotion alone - so your portrayal of reality must make her emotions run wild and give her a sense of euphoria that she can always remember when she thinks of you. I've said this earlier but you must give women a roller coaster of emotion in order to increase their overall reaction to you, but if it is more positive than negative, she will remember her entire idea of you as positive. If you make her feel emotionally good 10 times and emotionally bad 9 times, she will remember you as affecting her emotionally positively 19 times.^ “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao TzuYou CREATE reality. It doesn't exist - you make it exist. That gives you ultimate control over reality, and how people see it themselves. The reason confidence is such an attractive feature - everyone knows it - is because confident people sell their reality to others, a reality in which they are the ultimate prize, they are the top of their game, that YOU got lucky to be in their presence, and not the other way around.One of the best TED speeches I have ever heard is this one - http://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek...re_action.htmlCliffs: - You don't sell the WHAT, the product, you sell the WHY, the passion.When texting a girl, it doesn't matter WHAT you say as long as it's not extreme (insulting her for no reason, talking gibberish, etc.). The most important facet is how you sell yourself and how you say things. Let's look at an example from last night.[Example of text game with random chick - too long to post here. Original link: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...post1070732751]Some of you reading this are thinking I did the following things wrong:- Turn off our sexual chemsitry (calling her a dude, friendzoning her [at one point I even said "srs, we should friendzone each other so theres no sexual tension], telling her about other girls, etc.)- Called her ugly at one point, told her to go bang a dude she was talking about, in general make it seem like I'm not interestedAnd yet, it worked because I was in lead of the conversation - I didn't have to use lines to establish it, but I slowly brought her over to my game rather than playing hers. That's the only way to 'win' at texting. Real life is a similar but much more complex struggle told by your body language and voice and all that good stuff, but texting simplifys it so you just have to learn how to talk, rather than what to say. Again, I cannot teach you how to do it, I can just make you aware of what you need to strive for - and you need to get experience (thats why I fuking love tinder, pressure-free practice) to figure out what works, what doesn't work, and how to portray the persona you want.tl;dr Be yourself but portray yourself confidently so that she follows your path, and you aren't stuck chasing her down with misguided lines that just make you dig deeper into her web.
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