The Sanctuary
Carnality => Sex & Affection => Topic started by: theKit on October 03, 2014, 07:46:01 pm
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Would it bother you if one of your acquaintances revealed the fact that they loved you though you had no such feelings for them? Would you still associate with them afterward? Would it even matter?
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Would it bother you if one of your acquaintances revealed the fact that they loved you though you had no such feelings for them? Would you still associate with them afterward? Would it even matter?
How little do you know of them? Can you pinpoint why they feel the way they do, if there has been very limited exposure? If they act all lovey dovey with stars in their eyes for you, then I think you're actually dealing with is infatuation. Don bother trying to tell them that though.
Does it even matter? That's the best question. And I ask you, why can't you be 'loved' by many ? Do you feel you owe them in return or is there a sense of guilt for 'wasting their time'.
If it makes them happy and you don't allow it to run their mind, then what of it?
These questions are in discussion and not rhetorical.
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How would someone that hardly knows you be in this position and furthermore why would they bother 'confessing' this to someone they barely know??
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I'm in that situation with someone I've known for 10 years. She travels a lot so I only see her about 7 months of every year space out sparatically. Maybe it is simple infatuation but I have always been under the impression we're really good friends. Shes not very attractive physically and I can honestly say I don't particularly lust for her but shes such a wonderful person I'm not sure what I'd do without her friendship and I'm totally ok with just being friends with her but for some reason I recently felt the urge to tell her I loved her and explained why and I was clear (I think?) on emphasizing the fact that I wasn't trying to bone her or anything (though I def would).
Shes weirded out by the confession, we actually argued about it for awhile. This is what sparked my bromance thread. I feel like this friendship is on par with my bromances but shes a chick. I would have been perfectly fine if after I told her she just said 'ok'. Really, I just want her to KNOW she is important to me but now things are in absolute chaos.
Fuck bitches.
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Dropkick her from a 12 story building.
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I'm in that situation with someone I've known for 10 years. She travels a lot so I only see her about 7 months of every year space out sparatically.
That does change things. She's no stranger at all. She could be in love with you, though I am not suggesting this is the case. I couldn't make a scientific guess there, but I will mention this: It sounds as if for her you are a constant and reliable that she feels comfortable around you. What she feels may be comfort and a connection of any sort.
for some reason I recently felt the urge to tell her I loved her and explained why and I was clear (I think?) on emphasizing the fact that I wasn't trying to bone her or anything (though I def would).
Why did you do this?
You're not going to want to hear it, and I know you're level headed ordinarily, but that was a reckless move.
Describe how she makes you feel. I am doubtful that this was a good move. Don't linger in it, though, we'll move forwards again
Shes weirded out by the confession, we actually argued about it for awhile. This is what sparked my bromance thread. I feel like this friendship is on par with my bromances but shes a chick. I would have been perfectly fine if after I told her she just said 'ok'.
You know her well? Is she the type of person to get caught in emotion and argue or do you think she may be hurt?
It is understandable that she would be unhappy with your confession -
If you were her comfort and more a longstanding friend that she has a connection with on that basis, then she would not like your confession of love and complications to change the tema and upset the status quo.
If on the other hand she has been waiting all this time, head over heels for you, for some sort of fairytale shit then your confession and reaction is completely and utterly underwhelming to an extent that may be hard to understand.
What you must know now is that whether it will come to be thought of as an improvement in your relationship as friends or not ( "...whatever we are") something will likely develop from of this. For now, in regards to reaching out to contact her do nothing. Find some time for yourself. Think, while you sit and wait.
It's your work here first to find yourself.
How is your relationship with other girls? Existent? Strong?
Could it be that your motivation for saying what you did was not that you feel love for her but that you just want to love somebody?
IF - think about this carefully - If you want to entertain the possibility of something more in both directions, you need to be sure of yourself and usually you would be.
..then when she contacts you will will determine whether she could shit with the door open so to speak.
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Would it bother you if one of your acquaintances revealed the fact that they loved you though you had no such feelings for them? Would you still associate with them afterward? Would it even matter?
No, I'd say it wouldn't matter.
-Balls
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Been there. I may have laughed in her face. But to be fair, I thought she was messing with me. Still feel kinda bad about that.